This, every single fucking word of this. I couldn’t describe this part of me BETTER.
I don’t agree with the author’s use of the word. She is describing far more than introversion but enveloping it into a single term. The intensity of and frequency someone needs their partner through intimacy, relaxing conversations, and shared experiences is a separate trait that may or may not overlap with the introvert’s thought processes. From what she has said, I am the type of needy person she would avoid at all costs - yet I am very much an introvert myself. For me, relationships transcend the borders of social interaction. Being too drained to leave the house and be among strangers at a restaurant, movie theater, and so on wouldn’t prevent me from driving over to my girlfriend’s house in whatever sloppy outfit I already had on. Plopping onto her bed or couch to absently run my fingers through her hair whilst completely lost in my thoughts is exactly the type of thing I would need to “recharge”. Does that somehow make me an extrovert by the author’s definition; as I am drawing energy off the presence of others, even if I am not actively engaged with them in the physical realm?